Some people close the gap between what they really want to achieve and what they're actually achieving by drinking. That never did work for me.
It's probably a good thing that it didn't, because I've never seen anyone find joy and satisfaction in that particular solution. It's a dead end road that claims more lives every year than sharks do.
I approach the gap problem with the mind of someone who is looking for solutions, not band-aids. There are two possible ways to close the gap between desire and reality: one, to dream less; and two, to get more of what you dream of having.
The first possible solution, dreaming less, is a hard sell to the soul. We are designed to dream and grow until we decline. Up until that point, the mind very naturally looks ahead to what we can create next. Stagnation can cause a health crisis that is designed to force us to choose between getting up off the proverbial couch or riding the decline to the end. Faced with the choice most people will decide to follow their dreams, but no one likes to face the choice in that context.
The second solution for closing the gap is getting more of what you dream of having. Moving out of stagnation and into more joy is both exciting and terrifying. Most of us maintain a psychological wall that limits our joy to less than we actually can handle. The idea of being completely, utterly, 100% blissfully happy is more frightening than anything else. If we were that satisfied, we'd come into direct contact with any guilt, shame, or obligation that we might be carrying. Most of us want to avoid that badly enough that we'll play small.
Both solutions are difficult but both offer the same promise: it is possible to close the gap between what you want and what you have. But first, it is important to understand that YOU are the only one who can block the things you want from coming into your life. Getting what you want isn't so much about "getting" but about "receiving". You have to get out of your own way so you no longer are blocking your own progress.
I invite you to allow yourself the gift of joy. Complete joy ~ work you love, relationships you thrive in, long-term health and wellness, more than enough money to make your dreams come true. If you spend money getting help through that process, realize that it's an investment, not a cost. You get that back. Not from your teacher, but from the Universe. When you put your money where your heart is, it comes back a thousandfold.
Kimberly Errigo is an experienced teacher, senior life and business coach, and successful entrepreneur. A veteran in the coaching community, Errigo is the CEO of AwakenedPlanet.com, a cutting-edge company that offers workshops and coaching for personal and professional empowerment. For further information visit http://www.awakenedplanet.com.
