This month I am seeing a lot of rocky relationships: women trying to decide if they want to leave their partners, men being critical and hyper-emotional, children struggling with the fallout of ineffective boundaries and bad communication. It's a painful landscape to be in, and my heart goes out to those who are suffering with these difficult choices.
So many of us learn patience and wisdom through loss. We succumb to the mind's incessant chatter and leave to seek what we think will be better. Through the process, if it is successful, we mature in our ability to manage our own energy both in times of peace and in times of conflict.
In my experience, leaving a rocky relationship is often not necessary. Instead, what is truly required is to learn to control one's bus, to accept what is, and to patiently await the unfolding of the future while living in a powerful way in the present.
If your relationship is rocky, stop looking towards greener pastures and consider other alternatives. Your spirit may need to be called back from the past in order to stop recreating old hurts. You may need to learn new ways of responding to y our partner so you don't get caught by his or her drama. You may need to set new boundaries.
But first and foremost, challenge yourself to find your own wholeness so you can bring that energy into your partnership.
Kimberly Errigo is an experienced teacher, senior life and business coach, and successful entrepreneur. A veteran in the coaching community, Errigo is the CEO of AwakenedPlanet.com, a cutting-edge company that offers workshops and coaching for personal and professional empowerment. For further information visit http://www.awakenedplanet.com.